Tips can help kids cope after a hurricane

HOUSTON -- (September 17, 2008) -- Children will respond differently to the tragic aftermath of a hurricane, depending on their age and level of understanding of the event.

Dr. Flossy Eddins, associate professor, dean of psychiatry and behavioral sciences and director of child and adolescent psychiatry residency training at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston, says children ages 3 to 6 often think that they are responsible for bad things that happen.

Children not to blame

"We need to reassure children that it wasn't something bad that they did or thought that caused the hurricane," Eddins said. "Ask your child questions about what they think happened, because you may not know that your child feels like they are to blame."

With younger children, what they see is what they get. When children see repeated images on television of the disaster it can reinforce feelings of being unsafe and of the event being ongoing.

Restrict disaster coverage

"Parents should not allow their children to watch constant coverage of the disaster, but if they do watch be sure to open conversation with them about their reactions and feelings. Point out to them that there are people responding and trying to help," Eddins says.

Talk it over

Some children and teens often try to downplay their worries, but they still have them. Eddins says it's important for parents to keep the lines of communication open and honest concerning their emotional and physical concerns. Encourage your teen to consider ways he or she might help, such as volunteering at a shelter or helping with a school's fundraising.

Eddins offers these suggestions for all parents to help their children understand the disaster:

Be realistic in your reassurances. Don't tell your child that another disaster will never affect your family again. Tell them that, "You're safe now, here is how our family plans to stay together, and this is how I will always try my hardest to protect you."
Talk with your child and ask them how they are feeling. Listen to their fears and concerns, and list the ways you will be keeping them safe.
Parents should encourage their children to find ways to be helpful. Even if it's something as simple as giving away extra crayons. Eddins says this gives them productive outlets for what they are thinking and experiencing.
Parents shouldn't be afraid to admit that they don't have the answers to all of their questions. Provide ongoing opportunities for children to discuss their feelings.