Ease kids' anxiety over starting at new school

By Dipali Pathak

Starting at a new school – whether it's because of a move or simply graduating to a higher grade – can be difficult for children and adolescents. But parents and children can work together to ease the transition, according to a Baylor College of Medicine expert.

Some of children's chief fears include whether they will make new friends and fit in and if they can perform at a certain level, said Leng Bang, M.D., assistant professor of psychiatry and behavior sciences at BCM.

"Anxiety is a typical reaction in these types of situations,” said Bang, who is also a pediatric psychiatrist at Texas Children's Hospital.

Parents' role

Parents can take an active role in preparing their kids for this change and alleviating some fears.

"You can prepare them by taking them to purchase school supplies and new clothing. Get them on a regular nighttime and morning routine, and talk to them about worries they might have,” said Bang.

It's important for parents to maintain open communication with their kids, and it's just as important to communicate with their teachers and the school.

Get involved

"If you have a positive attitude toward your child's school and are happy to get involved in school activities, your child will reflect this behavior,” said Bang. "If you are involved in school activities, it's a great way for children to make new friends.”

Although anxiety is typical initially, it should fade over time, said Bang. If parents start noticing changes in sleep and eating patterns and grades and an increase in complaints of anxiety-related ailments such as headaches and stomachaches, it may be time to intervene.

"Talk to your child's teacher to see if they have noticed any changes at school as well. You might then want to get the school counselor involved to help your child get through this difficult time,” said Bang.

Anxieties can develop about school that may lead to behavioral changes or even school refusal. If this occurs, it is often helpful to seek help from child mental health professionals, said Bang.

In the end, maintaining open communication and staying involved will make the adjustment period easier for kids.